Self-Esteem

A person's self esteem is his overall evaluation of his self worth.


Having a high self esteem influence a person's perception about his abilities.  He may feel good, lok good or even feel smart due to a sense of high self-esteem.  Then again, it can act the other way, a person who look good and is smarter than his peer may also affect his sense of high self-esteem

When it comes to self esteem, an older child with a highly capable younger sibling will feel threatened by his younger sibling to his self esteem.  Relationships in fact motivates self relationships!  Relationships enables surviving and thriving of self-esteem.  When being rejected, our self-esteem lowers and make us more eager for social approval.  This pain motivates self improvement and a search for acceptance.  This is quoted by Mark Leary.  So whether, your self esteem is hurt is on the positive quantum or not, you decide.

Now let's move on to the dark side of self esteem.
People with low self esteem usually have often occur problems in their lives. Such as making less money, abuses drug and are more likely to be depressed.  These factors might be caused by other factors such as poverty and sexual abuse.  In fact people with low self esteem are unable to escape their dark past thus they are more likely to have problems.  It could work both ways..  lowself esteem affects their lives or their lives affect their sense of self esteem..

Unusually high self esteem?
Yes, High self esteem is good, but what if their self esteem levels are too high?
Research and findings have shown that Gang leadrs, teenage men that had sex or even terrorist have unusually high self-esteem..
Now.. why does this suggest?

When high self esteem crosses to an inflated sense of self, which is also know as narcissism, it becomes problematic.  They value more on achievements rather than empathy invoking situations.  Many lack empathy due to their unusually high sense of self-esteem.  Though they are charming and out going, their self centeredness often lead to relationship problems in the long run.  The link between narcissicm and problematic social relations had led psychologist to include it in the 'Dark Triad' of the negative triads.  The other 2 are psychopathy and Machiavallianism..

Now, you know that there are various ways that self esteem can influence a person or affect a person..